Disclaimer: If you are a victim of narcissistic abuse, I advise you to seek professional counseling and at the end of this article I will include some resources that may help. If you insist on going there, I do have some strategies that will assist you in getting a revenge on a narcissist. Beware if you cause a “narcissistic injury”, the narcissist will want to make you pay. I say just escape from the disordered and get in a healthy situation. Know that, the best revenge on the narcissist is to go on with your life and heal from their abuse, but if you insist on getting revenge?
A narcissist will take pleasure in seeing you unhappy. Your pain and your sorrow are their pleasure and their delight. So, whenever you are around your narcissist? Smile. In the face of their rude remarks, frowned up displeasure, and blatant disrespect? Smile. Nothing pisses a narcissist off more than knowing they can’t spoil your day. And trust me; dealing with a narcissist will spoil your day but if you smile it will be the narcissist who will be uncomfortable.
So, flash those lovely pearly whites and watch the narcissist start to feel uncomfortable and they may even appear to get mad at you. They will ask you why you are smiling so be prepared with a flippant, “Nothing” and make sure you keep smiling. It will drive the narcissist crazy especially if their day is going badly. The smile on your face will irk them immensely.
A narcissist craves attention. It is one of their favorite drugs. Thing! Ignore their calls. Go ghost. Evade any communication at all. Want to take it up a notch? Go to an event and act like you don’t see them. Your narcissist will be fit to be tied.
A narcissist biggest fear is they will be ignored. So if you insist on trying to be revenge, one of the easiest ways to disturb the narcissist’s inner peace is to ignore them. You can expect them to act out in the craziest of ways like, calling you repeatedly or spitefully filling up your voicemail with them berating you on a recording. No matter what they say, ignore it all but be warned, they will up the ante.
A lot of what a narcissist does when it comes to communication can be considered verbal abuse. Whenever they want to speak, interrupt. Basically, be the rude people they are to other people. It will go against everything that you have been taught. You may have been taught that it is rude to interrupt others, so you have spent your life not interrupting others.
Well good for you. You have manners. Well, a narcissist has no problem dominating conversations. Interrupting them may be the only way to get a word in otherwise. And once you start interrupting? Don’t stop. Continuously interrupt them and otherwise dominate the conversation. Do not give them an opportunity to “gas light” or play mind games with you. Do not give them the opportunity to triangulate you or gossip about others to you.
4. GO DUMB
If a narcissist insists that you interact with them? Act like you are completely clueless. For example, if they are retelling a story keep a completely blank facial expression. Simply go dumb, and pretend you do not understand the simplest of commands. Narcissists often use other’s reactions and corroborations to their stories to fuel their egos and need for constant attention.
It is a weird technique and you may feel silly but, “go dumb“. Act like you are confused or don’t remember. This will be so frustrating to the narcissist when you do not comply or hesitate to jump at their very whim. This is sometimes a trigger for the narcissist to react violently. This will be especially triggering if the narcissist figures out you are simply pretending
5. EXPOSE THEM
Narcissist love to sully your reputation but you can get revenge on them by sullying their reputations first. You can do this by warning others about them. Just expose the narcissist among us and call them out for the predators they are. It can help if you can get other people that the narcissist has harmed to vouch for your explanation of the narcissist.
I would not advise letting the narcissist know that you plan to expose them. If for any reason a narcissist gets the idea that you are against them, a narcissist will go on the offense and they are known for being good purveyors of revenge. They will flip the situation around and may even try to convince people you are the narcissist or try to make you look bad in some way.
6. DO NOT REACT
As stated before, narcissists are notorious for using other people’s reaction as fuel. One of the ways you can get the ultimate revenge on a narcissist is to not react to their behavior. This is sometimes very difficult to do, especially with the more overt kind, but it is well worth the discomfort it causes the narcissist. Just simply, do not react, when they antagonize, criticize, bully and threaten you. This will get under the narcissists skin.
Okay this one can be tricky especially if the narcissit is upping the ante…..they will do anything sometimes to get a reaction out of you and this can lead to you witnessing some of the most extreme behaviors known to man. A narcissist will sometimes regress into childlike behaviors and will thrown a tantrum unlike any two year old you have ever seen nor heard of!
All of these are methods on which you could exact revenge on the narcissist but………
BEWARE OF THE UNHINGED NARCISSIST:
If you cause a “narcissistic injury”, a narcissist will want to see you suffer. Do not attempt revenge on a narcissist that has threatened you with bodily harm or harmed you physically. Even a non violent narcissist will resist the threat to their fragile ego. If you attempt to get revenge on a narcissist you may be a target of their rage. They will try to destroy you and they will not stop until they see you in emotional and, or physical pain. Is it worth it to have a lifelong enemy? Always looking over your back because someone is always plotting your demise?
I know it hard to believe but often narcissist abuse is not personal. They will prey on anyone who is around. They are disordered people. So is it really worth going there with them? I know they have hurt you and may have even left your life in shambles. Its understandable you want them to pay and all these methods will make them suffer on some level if they are truly afflicted with this persistent personality disorder…..but that is the point. This person is disordered. They need to seek the help of professionals and you need to heal from their abuse.
The best revenge?
When you know that someone is a narcissist? Cut them out of your life. Disengage. Seek help to understand why you attract disordered people in your life. You deserve to be in happy, healthy relationships.
BREAK THE TIES THAT BIND
Often, it feels like the abuse that the narcissist heaped on to us has bound them to us. This is because often we are “trauma bonded” to them. We need to learn healthy ways to break that bond. Narcissistic abuse is a severe form of emotional abuse that is very traumatic and it is especially cruel because it is highly invalidating and soul crushing.
The worst part for some of the victims is they come from environments full of narcissists who work in teams, like parents, or groups like families, who work in concert to gaslight their innocent victims, like children. Narcissistic abuse can lead to an immense amount of psychological trauma for its victims and it affects the most vulnerable among us as well as the strongest that are made vulnerable to further abuse…..
It’s important to heal the deep psychological damage that the victim of narcissistic abuse has suffered. It is normal to want to get revenge on anyone who has caused such a pain.
It is my opinion it would be better to rebuild your self esteem and focus on your mental health and your overall better well being. They are doomed to a life of torment as they constantly plague the human race.
They are inhuman. They are like wolves that prey on anything they can find to feed their insatiable hunger for narcissistic supply. They love when you engage in negativity, so if you want to get revenge just make the choice to break free from the hold they have over you…..just do not engage. It’s the right choice and the only choice that will give you peace. Beware if you dive in the dumpster with the narcissist…..they are comfortable living in the filth of negativity.
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